Each day, I see emails or other writings from people who are struggling financially. Yes, times are hard for most families now. In the emails and blogs, I often read how the struggles are affecting the families. They are very worried about everything from their employment, losing their home or car, and just making the utility payments. Many of the emails come from those who read my blog. They read about our lifestyle and tell me that they wish they had thought about living that way before all the struggles happened. For some reason, they feel we are untouched by the economic issues. We may not be as affected as those with huge debt, but we are affected in some ways.
I often think on the stories I have read in the Bible about the times when the Lord stepped in and brought about change in His people. If I may, I have to go on memory here as I have been unable to read the Bible in nearly a year due to my vision. I wanted to say that there were times when the Lord's people were doing very well. They were living a life of plenty and had riches. It seems that each time they reached that position in their lives, it wouldn't be long after that they would start to forget the Lord and that the riches they had came as blessings from Him. They built up idols that had more importance to them than the Lord. They were puffed up with what "they" had acheived of their own efforts and work. When they would reach this point, the Lord always stepped in. The people had to be humbled and reminded of the Lord and from Whom their blessings came from.
Over my adult years, I have watched how society in general has become. I am speaking in general terms, please take no offense for what I am saying , I say with love. I have watched as many families are consumed with the ideas of having the best of everything. They want a large home, new vehicles, and the newest version of anything that catches their eye. They have convinced themselves that they "need" these things and are willing to get into a deep debt to obtain them. Credit cards have been a downfall to many families. The convenience of being able to get what they want on a whim has gotten out of control. People, in general, have forgotten what it is like to save up for the expensive things. They want it now and buy it on credit with little thought to what their payments will be like.
Many parents are feeding this example to their children in heaping spoonsful. The child asks for the newest video game system or other equally expensive entertainment and the parents give it to them. As soon as a newer version of that gift is on the market, the kids are asking for it because they "need" it. Often the system that they already have is still sufficient, but the child sees only that there is a newer version that is better. That gift that was given is no longer viewed as being acceptable. The same goes for clothing. I remember one family who's daughter was obsessed with having jeans of a particular label. The family was not wealthy. They had to save up to give each child a school clothing budget of $150 for buying their clothing for the new school year. This daughter used over half of her budget on a single pair of jeans! The mother then spent a large portion of the son's budget on the daughter so that she would have enough new clothing to start off the school year. The son was left with enough money for a single outfit that certainly did not come from the mall, as his sister's clothing did. The daughter's whim and desires came before the true needs of her brother. She was raised without the knowledge of the difference between a need and a want. Nor was she taught to show love to her brother by being sensible with her own budget so that he would have what he needed also.
Over the last month, I have watched on the Freecycle group the wanted ads. People were doing their Christmas shopping through Freecycle. Normally it wouldn't bother me at all. This time it did. I saw ads from people asking for laptop computers, game boys systems, a Wii system, iPods, and other such items that are very expensive. They seem to have forgotten that Freecycle was originally set up as a way to keep unwanted items out of the landfills. One ad said that they "needed" a DVD player for their 18 month old. The ad that really got to me though was a woman who had been through a house fire. Insurance had paid for the home but not the contents. She was asking for furniture. She went on in her wanted ad to say that she would like 3 TVs, and gave a list of solid wood furniture she also wanted. The last thing she stated was that she wanted pictures of the furniture you offered her, which would give her a chance to pick and choose what she wanted. I am sorry for her. She is in need of prayer. She has lost everything in a fire, yet she still is not humble enough to want only the necessities. She is instead wanting donations of furniture and furnishings of the quality that she had prior to the fire. She is a prime example of what I am writing about. Because she had the items once, she feel entitled to have them again even though she cannot afford them herself.
This brings me back to my original point. Whenever the Lord's people became too prideful in their wealth, He allowed them to be put into a position of becoming humbled again. Today, we are seeing families (and governments) that have allowed over spending of their financial resources to get out of control. Families and governments are living beyond their means in an effort to have it all.
I don't see the financial struggles and hard times as a punishment from the Lord however. I see it as an opportunity for us to be humbled and reminded of where our priorities should be. It is up to each of us to decide if we are going to use this as a time of reflection on how the Lord may be using this in our own lives or are we simply going to panic and blame the Lord for our struggles. The Lord is loving and does nothing to cause us harm. While His ways are not always easy for us, sometimes what may seem the hardest is the thing that is the most loving. It is like when your child strays a bit too far in one direction and you have to rein him in help guide him into the direction he needs to be going. I see this situation as one of those times. The quest for possessions and living beyond our means has gotten out of hand and in order to save us from our own folly, the Lord has allowed this time of learning and growth.
It is my prayer that each of us will truly open our hearts and minds to what the Lord wants in our lives. That each of us will get honest with ourselves and our Lord in how we have handled our stewardship over the blessings He has given to each of us. And if the Lord has to grow us in an uncomfortable way, I pray that we all are willing to be humble enough to allow Him to teach us.
10 comments:
Thank you for this post! I glean so much wisdom from you ,also thank you for taking the time to help so many women out with advise,prayers and just a listening ear :)Teresa
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Wow Paula! That was an interesting and said post... thank you, I think the world needed to hear that!
I see those same sorts of ads on our FreeCycle and CheapCycle group locally all the time. They say it's a true need, but it's only a list of wants. And yes, they feed the same 'wants' to their children as well. It's sad to see.
We aren't perfect here by any stretch, and we have far too much in material things, but nothing of the caliber you mentioned. My children are odd to most -- a friend at church moved recently and bagged up things she was ridding them of for Goodwill. She brought them here...at first she thought we might be offended, but I assured her we weren't, but let her know that things may well end up at Goodwill or the shelter anyway.
The clothing was not what we wear, but much of it went into the sewing basket as scraps for various projects, and the really good things headed to the shelter. There were toys that we never would have put money into, and had seen much better days, but my children were tickled with a day of two of 'new toy' play. Dolls (those dreadful Bratz dolls mostly) had new hair styles and re-made clothing (dresses and headcoverings! it's what we know.
We don't do the worldly christmas thing anymore, though Grandma sends things but is growing more practical in the gifting :o) We have tried to instill a love for basics and simple in our children and I pray daily that they continue in that frame of mind. Simple things like a new pair of knit mittens and scarf excites them to no end...even our older ones (16, 13, 10...the youngers are tickled with something as basic as a new notebook and colored pencils).
We have a long way to go to being truly on top of the simple and contented life here, but I know we will get there as long as we keep the proper focus.
Thank you for sharing this!
Deanna
A wonderful post. I agree with everything that you said. I see many of the examples you mentioned daily within my own family. Thank you for sharing it.
Excellent post!
Truer words are few and far between.
Thank you so much for the article. I just stumbled upon your blog and will now follow it! I am looking forward to meandering through it at my leisure (when I have time - ha!). Thanks again for your wisdom.
Great Post Paula,
I appreciated your words on being content and being humble...we are also going through tougher financial times due to the work my husband does and are tightening that belt even more...I get a little weary of the "wanted" posts on Freecycle as well, but allow grace to cover it and worry about my own failings, for they are enough to keep me busy with...
C~
Great Post! I am enjoying your blog and plan to check back often.
That is a very powerful post. I thank you for this reminder.
I am one of those grateful believers who has embraced the chastening of the Lord which has resulted in great fruit...I'm so thankful for His mercy and unfailing love.
I have seen this happen in my life. Where I have steared away from the lord and my life started going down hill.I have tried my bes to stay on tract with the lord now and life is happy and peaceful in our little bungalow:)
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